What is she thinking?
Is she judging you?
Is she DISGUSTED by you?
Uh… no.
A lot of the insecurities we suffer as men are completely unnecessary… because women don't care.
Read on to see what I'm talking about (complete with statistics on how little the ladies care about these things).
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Gentlemen, it's time to get rid of the insecurities you have but women don't care about.
Insecurity 1. The Size Of Your Wallet
Yes – there ARE some women who care only about how much money you have. But for most women, being fixated with money is a turn-off. Your ambition and hobbies matter more.
A 2014 study by Pew Research Center shows that people generally stay within their socioeconomic status when choosing a mate.
Most women are looking for a financial equal, not a sugar daddy.
They want men who are willing to treat them fairly and equitably — and are able to make sure that the romantic spark keeps burning.
Trying to pay for everything can be seen as trying to dominate the woman (she has her own money). It's also seen as vulgar. Successful men don't need to flaunt their wealth.
Expensive gifts actually make women feel bad and like they are getting paid to spend time with a guy – or worse still – that they owe him something.
Insecurity 2. The Size Of Your Muscles
This is one of our most common insecurities as men. We all think big muscles will impress women – but you don’t have to have a six pack to be attractive.
Guys who are obsessed with building muscles and are always at the gym prioritize this over everything – including women – and women know this.
A study published in the American Journal of Psychology asked men and women to rate various male body types. The men chose a body that was on average 28lbs more muscular than their own bodies.
The women overwhelmingly preferred a man who looked very much like an actual average man in their country.
A lot of guys hit the gym hard because they're lacking in some aspect of their romantic life and they think this is the solution to their problems. A toned physique is attractive, but to GAIN the attraction of a woman, you have to stir up some kind of emotion within her. Feats of athleticism will IMPRESS women but not necessarily bring long-term attraction.
Being able to captivate a woman through conversation and body language will have far more consistent results than having big muscles.
Insecurity 3. Treating Her Like A Princess All The Time
Some men like to put women on a pedestal and compliment them all day long. That’s not what most women actually want. In fact, many women don’t like to be worshiped. It can lead to a disconnect between you as partners.
Women want a connection with you and they want to be treated as an equal – not as some idealized angel.
Putting women on a pedestal can also leave them with insecurities of their own. They may feel that they can’t be vulnerable themselves or share things because that would crush the illusion of that perfect body or that perfect woman.
Insecurity 4. Not Working A 100+ Hour Week
Some men work a 100-hour week and boast about this like a badge of honor.
A woman IS looking for you to be passionate about your job, and it’s good to like what you do, but women want a work/life balance. If you’re spending all your time at the office, you will have no time for a relationship.
Insecurity 5. Not Being The INTERNET's Definition Of An Alpha Male
Pick Up Artists have popularized this term recently – an alpha male is supposedly dominant in every way, can seduce any woman, and never shows vulnerability. This is the ideal many men aspire to… unfortunately for them, women don't see it that way.
Women associate the term ‘alpha male’ with an overprotective, stubborn, insecure, unintelligent, misogynistic man. They see him as a manipulator of women, only wanting them for one reason and oftentimes juggling more than one woman at a time.
A woman wants to feel protected but does not want aggressive, competitive men. They find this off putting and even scary.
Don't be cold. Showing emotion is not a sign of weakness.
Women would rather you be emotionally open than always act confident. It helps build a connection when vulnerability is shown.
Women don’t expect a stoic, all-knowing kind of guy who never feels pain. They prefer intelligence, good work ethic, responsibility, self-sufficiency and being kind, warm, and honest.
Insecurity 6. Not Having An IQ Of 200
Coming across as inaccessibly smart can be off-putting to women. They do not want to feel inferior to you or that you are condescending to them.
Women want someone to talk to – to hold a conversation with – and to be able to teach each other new things. Don’t focus on intelligence – be interested and interesting.
Insecurity 7. Not Being 6ft+
Height isn’t nearly as important as most men think. If you make a big deal about the fact that she's taller than you, you just make her feel bad about HER height…
Women find that a lot of shorter guys are upset about their height and continually try and make up for their insecurities – by being loud, obnoxious or hitting the gym too hard. Be comfortable with your height – no amount of shouting or lifting weights will make you taller.
Insecurity 8. Being Nervous
Don't get insecure about your insecurities. Of course we all want to come off as cool and collected, but nerves are a universal human experience – 99% of women will respond with empathy, and the few who won't aren't worth the heartache.
In fact, a lot of women take nerves as a GOOD sign – they mean you CARE. So don't sweat a little sweating! If a particular worry is really throwing you off your game, communicate about it.
Insecurity 9: Not Being Handsome Enough
Guys often ask the question, “Do looks matter?” Men tend to judge women by their own standards – and men are more superficial than women. Men judge women based on their appearance whereas women tend to look for a deeper connection.
Women are not as concerned by your physical appearance as you are by theirs.
In fact, women may be put off by handsome men because they can feel insecure around them and because they feel there's more of a chance of that man being unfaithful to them.
Women want guys who can make them laugh, act confidently around them and communicate effectively with them.
Insecurity 10: Not Having A Flash Car
Having transportation is nice… but that's all it is. If you pull up in a nice car, a woman may be impressed temporarily. But it won't keep her interest.
Researchers from the University of Michigan found that when a man spends his cash on possessions like a flash car, women see this as a sign that he’s more interested in a short-term sexual relationship than romantic commitment.
In fact, a flash car is associated with showing off or with trying to make up for other insecurities. Which brings us to…
Insecurity: The Size Of Your Manhood
The biggest (pun intended) of all male insecurities. Men obsess about this – but women don't.
85% of heterosexual women are content with their partner's penis size, according to a 2006 study in the journal Psychology of Men and Masculinity.
Another study found 7% of women had ENDED relationships because their partners were too LARGE.
It really is not what you've got, but how you use it that matters.
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